Silent Night Frog...

20121222 Saturday - Mom was half asleep half awake last night but today, she was very good.  Fian offered to stay last night even though Dad refused.  She didn't sleep much cuz' Mom was very demanding, haha.  No wonder Dad is so tired.  I don't think he slept much in the past few days.  He also complained that his lower back is in pain.  But it's our honor to serve our family and it's a blessing to have lower back pain!!!  Keep it up Dad!!!

Gloria and I missed our traditional Christmas Celebration gathering last night but I kept all their presents under the tree so they all have to come get them later, haha.  Ray Ray was sweet for the first time when Gloria asked him how was the party on Friday.  He goes, "it won't be the same without you guys!", awwww, hehehe. Thanks for all the prayers everyone!

Mom is still very strong inside even though her body is the opposite.  It's always Dad who's crying.  I know he is also faithful but he just has more water in him, haha.  Love is what it is.  I'm sure you would want to cry when you see Dad "sing" to Mom in tears and shaky voice, "Longing to hold you...longing to kiss you...beginning to miss you...".  He would tell us how excited he was when he first dated Mom.  How fast his heart was beating outside the movie theater waiting for Mom's presence.  Even though Mom is late, once she showed up, he said the sky became brighter all of a sudden (how sweet...).  Then Mom broke the romantic scene in my head and said, "I don't even know what you are singing...", haha (cuz' yea, it's really hard to hear with his super shaky voice, haha)...

We went down after Chinese school and lunch.  Mom was very alert today with a lot of energy.  A lot of family, friends, aunties and uncles came to visit.  She enjoys the company.  But again, if you are planning to visit, please try to make it short cuz she is really tired and needs rest, even though she is a good fighter.

Fian was exhausted so she stayed with Mom during dinner and all of us went out for dinner, including Dad.  It's good to stay strong together with family during tough times.  Uncle Ed's family and our family plus Grandma are so close because of this stubborn lady.  She is very good in building relationship I have to say.  Both Fian and Mom had a three hours nap when we were eating out.  Thank God for that.  Fian then came home with us tonight trying to leave Mom and Dad some one on one time. 

20121223 Sunday - We all went to church this morning.  I know a lot of you want to greet us and show us how much you care but didn't get a chance to or didn't know how to/what to say.  We all GOT IT with many thanks.  Fian stayed with Grandma for noon worship (so she had two worships, hahaha).  Gloria, the boys and I headed down right after lunch when Dad asked us to come soon.  Yea, Dad said Mom's face is getting pale and was kinda worried.  

Mom wasn't as alert as yesterday and still in pain, especially at her lower back.  She wants to rest but the pain keeps waking her up as she needs to change positions every 15mins.  Dad needs to pull her up, dance with her, hold her, lift her, massage her, feed her, wipe her, change her, just stay with her.  Here is what Fian said on her Facebook Posts (1 and 2) (if you have FB account)...

I know many people are waiting for our updates.. I arrived yesterday and went straight to the hospital from the airport! I am so happy to see her again! I am so thankful that I could see her smile again! We had a great family gathering time last nite at the hospital.. Everyone was there and juz like we were having a pre-xmas party or something! After seeking for God's Will and discussing with the whole family.. Mom decided not to take further chemo treatment but rather spend the very last moments with her loved ones! We all cried except this strong lady in the house when making this difficult decision! She was able to lead a more than 5-min prayer at the end to give thanks to God.. This was not easy as she was so tired that she could fall asleep at any time even during our conversation! We joked that she needs to go to the God's Kingdom first so that she could prepare everything for us.. Then she goes.. "me again?!" haha.. Yes! She is always the one who makes arrangements for the family and friends.. 個個都慣咗睇佢頭.. 聽
maybe u think this is sad.. But the love and peace we have in our family is hard to describe.. For those who care about her and our family.. Thanks for your prayers and support all along and please continue to do so! I wish everyone a Merry X'mas! It started snowing this morning! Love it~~ :) God is good all the time!

"Their love melts everyone and for sure will last 4ever"
My second day here.. I went down with gor after dropping jake to school.. Spent a lot of time with mom and dad at the hospital.. Observing how dad looked after mom the whole day.. As the bad cells started to spread.. She is suffering from pain all over her body.. Need pain killers to reduce the pain level.. Usually this would make her feel sleepy.. But the sleep wont last long as muscle pain is there whenever she stays in the same position for long.. She needs to sit up and lie down from time to time.. and she needs Dad's help to do this.. (side story: mom always complains about dad not willing to dance with her.. But now whenever they need to go from chair to bed or vice versa.. 佢哋就要跳番part 舞先做到！哈哈！dad kept saying sorry when he made the turn with mom ! At one time I saw mom's feet were on Dad's! They r still a very sweet couple after all!) Changing positions of mom took a lot of energy.. and now I know where Dad's waist pain came from.. and sometimes he needs to do this 4 times every hour.. Thinking on this.. he shouldnt have enough sleep during the past week.. juz to take advantage of my jetlag problem.. I offered to him that I would take his shift that nite so that he could find himself some time to sleep.. I mean proper sleep.. Lying down and putting his glasses off.. Dont think he has done it for the last couple of days.. I m glad that he took the offer at the end after persuading him for quite some time.. Although I wont do a better job than him.. and I m sure mom would always prefer dad to be her 24/7 nurse.. at least I can keep an eye on mom during the nite while he could finally get some rest! I was so thankful that I was given this one-on-one moment with mom.. At our first dance.. Mom asked me where's dad?! I lied to her that dad went to take a shower.. When we had our second dance.. I told her that he actually went sleeping on the sofa in the waiting room.. I reminded her about the lack of sleep of dad.. Although she doesn't like to dance with me.. she didnt ask me again until morning came.. I can see the love between them.. I m sure u would tear when seeing dad singing a song to mom repeatedly with his shaky voice.. "longing to hold u.. Longing to kiss u.. Beginning to miss u.." he did this becoz he claimed that it would be easier for mom to locate him.. He would keep singing this song one day when he reaches heaven! My back and waist pain got worse after the nite.. Haha! "無用!" as haven said.. But I m more than willing to do it! I m so blessed to be born in a family like this.. Always proud to have parents like them.. They not only love me.. protect me.. spoil me.. teach me.. prepare the best for me.. Most importantly they led me to God.. they have set up a very good role model.. Juz wanna be like them more everyday! I love u!!

My in-laws arrived this evening and they came straight from the airport.  We then went out for dinner with Dad and let Fian and Mom rest just like yesterday.  Gloria was smart enough to make sure we drove two cars down as my mind is probably not clear enough.  So, the boys, Gloria and my in-laws left right after dinner.  Dad and I got a chance to walk back and had a good chat.  This guy is very sad but at the same time he knows who holds the future.  His faith is nothing less than Mom as I said but it's just that he's not as strong.  We got a present from Uncle Hugo and Auntie Ivy - a frog!  It stands for Fully Rely On God, hahaha.  Cute!!!

Fian was trying to stay overnight but Dad insisted to stay alone.  So, we finished helping Dad with a few routines before leaving.  For sure, we will stick together only closer from now on...

One thing worth to mention is Jake.  He somehow turned into another person lately, hahaha.  He becomes so good and obedient all of a sudden, keep listening and following everything.  He even teaches Jonah what's right and wrong. I hope this won't be a temporary thing.  I found that it's so much happier if someone else is praising my kids, hahaha.  However, his superhero blood is still in him!  Just like Mom's superhero is always with her, thank God!!!

"The Lord is my shepherd, I lack nothing.  He makes me lie down in green pastures, He leads me beside quiet waters, He refreshes my soul.  He guides me along the right paths    for his name’s sake.  Even though I walk through the darkest valley, I will fear no evil, for You are with me; Your rod and Your staff, they comfort me.  You prepare a table before me    in the presence of my enemies.  You anoint my head with oil; my cup overflows.  Surely Your goodness and love will follow me all the days of my life, and I will dwell in the house of the Lord forever." (Psalms 23)